Dear 268 Let’s Talk

I have heard people say Antiguan women are no good and I always defended that statement until I found myself in a predicament that forced me to write this letter.

I wanted to get an idea of what public opinion is on my story. I have been dating this woman from Liberta for several years.

I got my green card and I migrated to the United States. This woman, whom I loved and still love had a daughter for someone else.

I raised that child as my own. I would send them tickets to visit me during the summer. Once I was settled in Atlanta, I allowed them to come to live with me.  The child is now 10 years old

I put the child in school and this woman was well taken care of. She made friends with other Antiguans in the US and I was very happy since I never wanted her to feel isolated. We were a family.

About four months ago I heard her call someone’s name in her sleep. Several times. I chose not to say the name for obvious reasons but I woke her up at 2:45 a.m to question her.

She said it was our daughter’s teacher and she was having a nightmare. That was some nightmare because she was wiggling and giggling while she called his name.

I didn’t believe her so I questions our daughter. Who told me that mommy is always on the phone with Sir…so and so. I confronted her again and she confessed that they were having an affair.

I want to report the matter to the school but that would embarrass our child. I want to send them back to Antigua but I love them so much. And the Antiguan in me wants to walk into the school and beat the life out of this teacher.

But all my options may end up being worse for me and them because I love my family.

What do you think I should do? Are all Antiguan women really like that? Or did I just get the bad apple?

Family Man


Hello Family Man

It is never easy dealing with these matters especially where the heart is concerned. The fact that you are even taking your family into consideration is good.

You shouldn’t use a broad brush to paint all Antiguan women. It is not even about any particular woman. It is really about human nature and their tendency to make mistakes.

When trust is destroyed it can really take a toll on any relationship and in your case, I hope that you can get through this test, whether together or alone.

You and your partner need to sit down and discuss this and figure out whether you will stay together or move on without each other.


Good luck!