Dear 268 Let’s Talk
I have a problem and I’m hoping that I can get some advice before I end up at His Majesty’s. I have a Spanish neighbor and my 18-year-old daughter will not understand when I tell her this man is no good.
We have been living in a certain area for about 5 years and he suddenly moves in and takes over the area with his smoking, loud music, and reckless behavior. My daughter seems to be out of the blue- having an interest in this “Spanny-man”.
She sits on the gallery with her eyes roaming in his area hoping she would see him fly by in his car. He is constantly dropping her off from college.
I have a problem because these men are no good. They want nothing good for young girls. My daughter was raised well but I have no clue what she sees in this man.
In the eyes of the law, she is an adult but I won’t allow her to remain in my home being in a lovey-dovey relationship with this predator. The man must be 40 years based on how he looks.
I have tried to tell her that having a handsome face isn’t everything. A man’s background and his plans are important too.
Honestly, I wish that Spanny-man never came to live in our community. He has taken charge of my daughter’s pure mind and because of him, our relationship is just not the same.
Screaming for help
Dear Crying Mom
There is a long and short answer to your cry; let’s explore the short and more rational approach to this concern.
You must first come to terms with the maturity of your daughter; she is 18 years old and an adult. Adults get to make their own decisions about even what is detrimental to their well-being.
Mothers especially struggle with the intuitiveness that affords them a peek into the future of their children, since this can indeed usher in a state of helpless for the parent.
Being a friend to your daughter at a time like this will certainly give strong support to being a parent. There is a friend that sticks closer than a mother and the secrets hidden from a parent are most times known to a friend.
Two adult friends reasoning out a matter will most times bring about a desired result
268 Lets Talk
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